Dear Wednesday: Am I Allowing Things to Happen?

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Dear Wednesday,

As we close out the month and prepare to enter into a new one, many things may go unnoticed by us. But one thing that we aren’t sure to miss, is when there is something out of the ordinary.

Particularly when it is causing a disruption of sorts. July marks the beginning of the second half of the year and with it there are many changes, ordinary and not so ordinary. Summer starts to come to an end and we start thinking of a new school term that will start next month. With a new school term, sometimes that can mean new schools, new living arrangements and new lessons to learn.

For others of us, maybe you are starting a new job in a new city with some friendly and not so friendly faces. Or you might find yourself at the end or start of a difficult relationship. And undoubtedly as each year goes by, we grow older. And with age, we physically, emotionally and psychologically change. Health concerns press to the forefront of our minds because, well, we aren’t the young kids we used to be. The constant adjustments to LIFE inevitably change us.

But, rest assured that how we manage the changes in our life matters a great deal towards our overall satisfaction.

Many of us feel overwhelmed, stressed and anxious about changes in our life and will tolerate a lot, including dysfunctional people in our environment, out of fear of change.

And if we change, then so must the people in our lives. Though not much about life is ever certain, one thing you should keep in mind is that people you allow in your inner circle can impact how you perceive and tolerate the fluctuations of life.

The smallest conflict will render you helpless and hopeless over time ... encouraging you to continue to just ALLOW things to happen to you without any effort on your part to work on the things you DO have control over - like your circles!

Focusing on aspects about your situation that you CAN change and looking to what you have to gain can go a long way towards reducing the chaos. The key is that you must DO THE WORK!

You can’t sit back and allow everything to happen to you because you’re tired, content, too afraid or feeling incapable.

If you struggle to find motivation towards the work of cleaning out your social environment, find that accountability partner. Someone who adds to your life instead of draining it. Someone who wants better for you than maybe you want for yourself. If you don’t have anyone in your life like that, then the first bit of work you need to do is expand your activities into an area where you have access to the support you want!! Take a class, join a small group at church or volunteer with a cause close to your heart. With that, you can take on the other necessary changes in your life a little bit easier.

Do you have an accountability partner/true friend/honest confidant? If not, what’s one thing you can do to find them? Comment below and let us know.

Until next time, Be good to yourself and others!

Evaluate your relationships!

Check your thought life!

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This Dear Wednesday Letter was hand-crafted by Patrice Scott. Patrice Scott is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been working with the active duty military community and their families for the past twelve years. She is addressing the topic of transition/change for the month of July due to the increase in relocation during the summer months.

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